Practicing Presence

Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #5– Practicing Presence

This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about Practicing Presence.. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Developing Positive Self-Talk.

As a busy husband, father, and business owner, practicing presence is something that I must consciously implement day-by-day otherwise it won’t happen naturally. I know that practicing presence is a discipline that takes time to develop. The more I do it, the more natural it becomes. I have had several opportunities over the last five weeks of the Peaceful Parenting Challenge to practice being present with my wife and daughter. Getting away from Vancouver has helped enormously, especially when our cell phone coverage doesn’t work while travelling! 🙂

One example from the BC Day long weekend was when we were waiting for the ferry from Earl’s Cove in the Lower Sunshine Coast to Saltery Bay in the Upper Sunshine Coast. Since it was such a busy weekend, the ferry that we wanted to get on was totally full so we had to wait at the ferry terminal for two hours. Even though this was frustrating at first, it actually ended up being a blessing in disguise because for those two hours, our cell phone internet connection wasn’t working so we were totally unplugged. Plus, there was nothing to do: no sightseeing, no checking in or out of hotels, no packing or unpacking, no reading maps, no where to go…we simply had to wait, and wait, and wait.

Waiting at the terminal ended up being such a great experience because we could focus totally on our daughter playing in the park, watching her learn to walk, and encouraging her to interact with the other kids. Best of all, my wife got the much needed quality time she always longs for with me (did I mention that Quality Time and Acts of Service are my wife’s love language). So, unintentionally, I got to practice presence with both my wife and daughter and this is one of the best memories of the trip! Yes, even better than the sightseeing, the gorgeous views, the ferry trips, and the scenery…it was simply a time of connection of a small family: my wife, daughter, and me!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

Sweet Sleepy Time– Sarah from Prenatal to Parenting realizes that by focusing on all the things that she ‘could’ be doing she was missing out on what she ‘was’ doing.

Week 5 Practicing Presence – Jennifer from Children’s Directory finds it’s easier to practice presence when there is no Wi-Fi available.

Being Present – Peaceful Parenting Challenge – Week 5  – Katrina from Kalem Photography learns to listen not only with her ears but also with her heart.

Practicing Presence – Ricky from Daddy Blogger has a wonderful time waiting for the ferry.

Week 5 – Remain present – Amanda from Sticky Hands has got this presence thing nailed.

KICK THE PANTS! – WEEK 5– LISTEN UP WILL YOU? – Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat finds it ironic that she’s learned all this before.

Being present can bring great gifts– Lolly from My Journey Home feels she still has some work to do.

Doing One Thing At A Time – Amber from Strocle.com is looking for tips on how to stop multi-tasking.

Practicing Presence