Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #7 – Watch Your Language
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about using positive language with others. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of unplugging.
Our blog challenge this week was watching our language and practicing positive communication. I feel that I am generally a positive communicator but I have become more aware that there is some negative words I use frequently in my dialogues with my daughter. Of course, as parents, the words “Don’t” and “Can’t” and “No” tend to pop up in our conversations with our kids frequently. However, doing the exercise this week has made me more aware of the importance of using “Do” and “Can” and “Yes” instead.
Now that our daughter is 15 months old and has shifted from being a baby to being a toddler, she often tries to grab at things and wants to demand her own way all the time. Of course, we can’t always give her everything she wants (such as too much Coke or too many fries) so instead of just saying “No, you can’t have that” I have shifted my communication to say “This is why you can’t have that.” I think just this small shift will help her to understand the why behind the what. My wife and I are great teammates since we both catch each other when one of us says a negative word to our daughter.
I’m so glad for this week’s challenge as it will be something that I will be implementing regularly with little Rianne! Starting at such a young age will help build a strong foundation in Rianne for positive communication in the way she relates to us as parents, to her siblings, to her extended family and friends, and even how she communicates to herself. Positive communication with others must first start with positive communication to myself. Like everything else in life, it all flows from the internal and moves outward to effect all of our other relationships.
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
Tips for making the Positive Comments outweigh the negative in your child’s day – Sarah from Prenatal to Parenting shares a startling stat and asks for your help in changing the numbers.
Language and Distractions- Peaceful Parenting Challenge: Week 7 -Kathryn from Curiosity and the Kat is a bit distracted.