Welcome to the Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival: Week #1 Creating Awareness.
This post was written for inclusion in the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge Blog Carnival hosted by Prenatal to Parenting. This week our participants have written about creating awareness. We hope you enjoy this week’s posts and consider joining us next week when we share about a week of Mindful Breathing.
I recently joined the 10 Week Peaceful Parenting Challenge. Parenting definitely teaches you how to be more peaceful: with yourself, with your spouse, and with your kids. However, peacefulness really must begin with ourselves. To be at peace with others, I must first be at peace with myself. For our first exercise, we were required to make a chart with 3 columns: trigger, emotion, response to emotion.
Our daughter is 13 months old and is starting to teeth and have sore gums. For the first year, our daughter was extremely peaceful and sociable, but lately she has been throwing more tantrums, especially when she doesn’t get something she really wants. Instead of getting angry, upset, or frustrated with her, I’ve started trying to understand her communication: What is my daughter trying to say to me? What does she want? What does she need from me?
When our daughter cries, it usually means a few things: she’s hungry, she’s sleepy, she needs to be changed, or simply she’s bored. It’s not always clear what she wants when she starts crying but I make sure she’s fed, changed, and has slept enough and then if she keeps crying, it usually means she has become bored of a routine activity. All I need to do is change the activity or move her from the living room to the bedroom or from the couch to the floor and she is fine again. Sometimes, I just have to pick her up, walk around for a while, and then put her back down and she is completely fine.
Being a parent is a continual learning experience – since I haven’t done it before, I just learn as I go. It seems parenting comes much more naturally to my wife than me. I guess it’s the “motherly instinct” – I don’t think dads have a “fatherly instinct.” Doing exercises like this one help me reflect on my own personal triggers, emotions, and responses. Completing this assignment has made me more aware of the things I need to work on to be the best possible dad I can be to my daughter.
Ricky Shetty – Daddy Blogger
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
Balancing being a stay-at-home-mom & working from home – Sarah from Prenatal to Parenting realizes her home base business and mommy duties don’t mix well.
Ricky at Daddy Blogger reflects on how peaceful the first year of his daughter’s life was and wonders where all that peace has gone.